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Ainura A’s Grandmother Prevailed as a Simple Woman against Great Obstacles

I would like to write about my grandmother who had passed a thorny road of a life from the beginning and up to the end with endurance and optimism. For me, such a woman is a hero. She was born in 1944 in the small city Dzhezkazgan. She had never seen her father and her mother had died while in childbirth. In total, there were four children in the family. The elder brother and sister were born from the first marriage of the father, and the grandmother and her elder brother from the second wife. Having lived in a boarding school up to his teenage years, her elder brother took her away to his family. She was brought up in severe conditions, she did everything about the house, cooked meals for the whole family. Since no one ever supported or helped her, so she had to give up her studying at school. Sometimes she had to do lessons at night in a street toilet in darkness and when her brother knew about it, he left her in the street in winter for two hours.

Consequently, at an early age she had to get married because of the insistence of her brother, she couldn’t resist him and it was necessary to obey the will of her elder brother. Having given birth to her child, she had to start back to work. And as it is usual, some kind of problems began to develop between them. The husband began to drink and beat her without reason and she understood that she could not raise her child up and give all necessary for education in such conditions. After her divorce, she moved to Almaty city knowing that there would be no support from relatives and friends.

Later, having risen up to a significant position and having an excellent reputation as a business woman earning money with blood and sweat, everybody began to appear and ask for her help. And now it had already been a lot of years as our relatives lived in Almaty near to us, on a regular basis getting support up to these days from a 65 year old grandmother. Our childhood had passed carefree and without any refusing to us. But now, recollecting all this, you can understand how actually it was difficult to bear the burden of a single life, on your own on fragile shoulders of a woman, without support from her relatives, friends, or favorite person.

After getting married the second time and having lived together for 40 years, she still considers herself a happy woman though she has to look after her sick husband even after receiving an insult. Not desponding, she reads namaz for 5 years and learned the Arabian language. Every year she goes to Mecca, where the sacred prophet Mohammed had been buried. Now my grandmother Khadzhy. It means that she is sacred, innocent and everyone for whom she asked in front of God.

Thus, she’s remarkable, best grandmother for us and for her great-grandsons. She has raised worthy and fair people. She is like a core for all our families and no one ever dares disobey her. What’s amazing is her internal strong spirit, stability, courage, in spite of the fact that she’s simply a woman!

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Saule Z’s Kazakh Proverbs with Meanings

Kazakh proverbs from www.tilashar.kz website translated by Saule Z.

 

1. Wealth should be sacrificed for the sake of a life, a life should be sacrificed for the sake of honor (Keep your honor from childhood at the expense of everything or you eat to be alive and make great deals).
2. Father is unapproachable mountain, mother is a spring at mountain bottom, the child is a reed growing on the river bank (Parents will be a great ideal for their children and be respected. Children must feel good care and warm of their parents).

3. Looking at the father grows the son (A son takes after his father).

4. The son brought up by the father, will make an arrow itself. (How well father brought up so well a son is brought up.)

5. Father is the best critic of his child.

6. The burden of the father is as heavy as luggage of a camel (Father is responsible for his family).

7. The good reputation of the father serves forty years to the stupid son (A son is treated according to his father’s priority).

8. Marry one’s daughter, after knowing who her mother is (How well is a mother, so well her daughter).

9. The tent of mother full of holes is better, than a gold palace of relatives (to be with mother is better than with relatives).

10. The orphan without the father is a semi-orphan, the orphan without mother is the real orphan

11. Even if three times you will transport your mother on yourself to Mecca you will never pay off the debt to her (mother’s kindness has no price because it is invaluable).

12. The house with children that a market is noisy but the house without children is a tomb – is silent and sad (there are children there is joy, where there are no children there is no happiness).

13. If after the father there is a son that means he is there, if there is a daughter, means trace is there (If father leaves a son after him it means that he is alive, if he has a daughter he leaves a trace after him) .

14. Where there are no girls, there is no fun (girls make home light and bring joy, merry).

15. Taste of food is salt, beauty of an aul (village) is girls.

16. A happiness harbinger is the daughter (girls make home light and bring joy, merry).

17. The daughter is a guest (whenever girls marry they leave their home).

18. Not able to comb silk will transform it into a wool, not able to care of the daughter will transform her into the slave (one must treat their ladies in the right way).

19. A good daughter-in-law behaves as an own daughter; the good son-in-law, becomes as an own son.

20. The Son-in-law is for hundred years, the matchmaker is for one thousand years (after the marriage parents tie so closely and remain good relatives forever).

21. The house in which the visitor does not come, is similar to a tomb.

22. You can say “come” to visitor, but you can not say “leave” it is impossible (say welcome to everybody to your house).

23. Kazakhs can not live without eating meat and say the following about it: When I eat meat, it jams in teeth, if I do not eat meat, I dream about it.

24. A pain for cattle is a soul pain (cattle are a very valued for Kazakhs, so if there is something bad with cattle it was bad for the owner of that cattle).

25. The first wealth is health, the second wealth is a family, the third wealth is the presence of cattle.

26. The person is pulled back to where he was born; a dog is returns to where it gorged on food. (Man appreciates his homeland (birthplace), and a dog likes the place where it is fed).

27. First work and then demand. Who will find a source of work, will find wealth (Who works hard, he lives well).

28. Young has to work – old has to entertain (While you are young, there is nothing difficult to do or while you are young you should work hard in order to have a good life in old age).

 

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