I wrote this letter on October 12, 1994 to my loved ones back in the U.S. I was writing from Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan and had my head full of wedding plans back in the Minneapolis area but also when I returned to Bishkek, I wanted to do the wedding all over again. I forgot how provoked I was with Tatyana, my Kazakhstani friend, who didn’t believe I was willing to fly her and a Kyrgyz girl on my own expense. Back at that time it cost about $3,000 to fly both of them to Moscow, then New York and then Chicago where they took a bus from there to Minneapolis. Once Ken and I went on our honeymoon, they stayed on for another week or so traveling back together to New York and then home to Central Asia. As late as October, things were NOT moving on Tatyana’s end of things. Not due to her busy-ness but due to her doubt.
“…I want my Kazakhstani friend, Tatyana, who lives in Almaty, to be one of my bridesmaids. She simply can’t believe that I would fly her to the States to be a part of our wedding. It means getting a letter of invitation, a visa, her passport in order, plus the plane fare arranged. I told her in June to make the necessary preparations by writing friends of hers in the States so she could stay with them after the wedding. I hasn’t happened because of her unbelief and the time for buying airfare tickets is NOW! Because she thinks something could go wrong with her Kazakhstan government not granting an exit visa, she doesn’t want to get her hopes up. Inertia was winning!!!
People from the Soviet past are steeped in their old way of thinking. They have been programmed to think negatively. Thinking it will not work…it will not happen. This fall semester with 60 first year students while there were 40 new students last year, I still have hope for Kyrgyzstan! I can say that because of reading my students’ journals and homework assignments. I can look into their hearts and respond to each one with encouragement. One of my students, named Marat, is proselytizing his Muslim faith to me. (;-)
The downside of being the only American English teacher after all the other ones left from the first year is that I have a very heavy teaching load. It is like giving an essay test to 60 students and returning their results to them each week. Each student’s assignment takes about 10-15 minutes to grade. The decision was made by me to give up my Fulbright grant at the end of January instead of the end of May of 1995. After returning from my Minneapolis wedding, I will get married again in Bishkek for the benefit of my expat, Kyrgyz and Russian friends. I’m mostly doing the wedding again for my students. I will move to Almaty where Ken’s job is and we are expecting great things together!!!